Practice Emotional Security: Skill 2: Internally access positive memories and the thought of supportive others in a moment of difficulty

Each MCD Relationship Competency identifies 6 Skills, along with specific practices for learning each. For more context about MCD Relationship Competency 11: Emotional Security, see Skill 1: Using specific neutral observations, share with significant others what emotional security and responsiveness looks like for you.

Skill 2: Internally access positive memories and the thought of supportive others in a moment of difficulty

Part of cultivating emotional security includes learning to receive support and care. Perhaps the most simple way to receive is to reflect on the support and care you have received in the past, and invite gratitude.

It is also essential to internally bring to heart, and turn towards, those who you know are there for you in moments of stress or insecurity. It’s ideal to have a network of supportive others. When you allow yourself to receive from and trust the care of a few key people in your life, you can remain resilient when you feel reactive or insecure in any one relationship.

Practice

Either with a journal or with a buddy, describe your network of support. Name five key people in your life, and in what ways you receive support and care with them. Describe the experiences of security you have enjoyed with them.