WORK WITH ELIA
What's it all about?
Private MCD consultation is not therapy. It is closer to a form of mentoring and support with regard to the personal transformation tools, consciousness and skills of MCD. All of what we do in MCD arises from the confidence that when we attain a particular quality of connection with ourselves and others, the door to creative and effective action and collaboration opens. A prerequisite to engaging in private consultation is that you have engaged in growth and learning through mindfulness-based therapeutic modalities, Nonviolent Communication, or Mindful Compassionate Dialogue.
For Individuals:
In a typical session, you might begin by describing your experience of a situation in which you wish to apply MCD. I will offer empathy, reflect back, ask questions, invite you into guided mindfulness until we get to the heart of what is needed.
Then, together, we will choose an intervention. Examples of potential interventions include:
Understanding and integrating new forms of communication.
Designing specific practices or responses for a given situation in your life. For example, this might include clarifying how you would manage reactivity, set a boundary, make a request, repair a rupture, or engage in needs-based negotiation.
Engage in a role play to discover how it might feel, look, or sound to bring MCD to a particular relationship or type of interaction.
Deepen into mindfulness to uncover patterns of reactivity that are sabotaging connection.
Psychoeducation regarding your experience or relationship dynamics.
For Couples:
It is a priority for me that sessions with couples are a safe space. As such, a necessary agreement is that anyone can call a pause at any time and all will pause in silence to regulate and reconnect. I will call a pause regularly to help you maintain emotional regulation, connection, and focus on one thing at a time. We will also make use of reflective listening, which helps the dialogue to move at the speed of the nervous system and assures that, message sent is message received.
I will ask you both to have a feelings and needs list with you, which you can download from the “free resources” page. I will be inviting you to learn and use this vocabulary as you build skills in appreciation, empathy, honest expression and eventually all of the 12 relationship competencies.
We will deepen into mindfulness to uncover patterns of reactivity that are sabotaging connection. We will diagram your reactive interaction loop and use this to raise your capacity to offer care, create healing responses, and practice non-reactive dialogues with challenging topics.
To find out more about either type of session and confirm that we are a fit for working together, email Elia to schedule a free 15 minute call.
To Schedule an appointment:
All sessions are on Zoom
Sessions are one hour. $144.
BIPOC may schedule for $90 a session
Financial contribution is negotiable. Please write to us with an alternative proposal if these contributions are prohibitive.
Email Elia at info@wiseheartcommunity.org to schedule a fit call or a session.
All payments via paypal, Venmo or Wise.
