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Connection Gems

Practice Relationship Repair: Skill 1: Distinguish effective repair from common tragic strategies for repair

Groundedness and Practice in the face of Political Tragedy

Dissolving Shame Regarding Particular Needs

Practice Life-Serving Boundaries: Skill 6: Establish a boundary with body language, behavior, or words any time that you would like to change or disengage from an interaction

Self-Pity vs. Self-Empathy

Practice Life-Serving Boundaries: Skill 5: Identify the signs and symptoms of behavior in yourself or others that don’t support boundaries

Sexual Expression: Discerning Needs & Strategies

Practice Life-Serving Boundaries: Skill 4: Identify current limiting beliefs that interfere with boundary setting and the expansive beliefs that will support boundary setting

Decisions in Partnership: Talk About It or Let It Go?

Practice Life-Serving Boundaries: Skill 3: Articulate 3 non-negotiable boundaries that you hold in any relationship

The Nuances of Asking for and Giving Advice

Practice Life-Serving Boundaries: Skill 2: Identify 3 types of useful boundaries

Build a Bridge Before Crossing

Practice Life-Serving Boundaries: Skill 1: When saying “no” to someone’s request, identify the needs to which you are saying “yes”

A Simple Practice with Reactivity

Practice Needs-Based Negotiation: Skill 6: Choose 1-3 strategies from the brainstorm list and refine into specific and doable agreements

How to Shift from Demands to Requests

Practice Needs-Based Negotiation: Skill 5: Engage creative brainstorming…

Is Analyzing Needs Helpful?

Practice Needs-Based Negotiation: Skill 4: Begin brainstorming requests when there is a clear sense of shared caring and honor of each other’s needs

Freedom from Shame Loops

Practice Needs-Based Negotiation: Skill 3: State observations, thoughts, feelings and needs in less than two minutes before asking for a reflection back from the other person

How to Shift from Your Head to Your Heart

Practice Needs-Based Negotiation: Skill 2: Identify and communicate three ways to set up a dialogue for success: state intention, offer reassurance, plan for safety

Empathy & Discernment: Your Stuck Friend (Part 2)

Practice Needs-Based Negotiation: Skill 1: Articulate the difference between needs-based negotiation and other common forms of negotiation

Self-Connection and Your Stuck Friend (Part 1)

Practice Thriving and Resilience: Skill 6: Broaden and build interdependent and supportive relationships within community

Connection Gem Archive

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