You were a good daughter the first day or two. Now, you are only showing the worst sides of yourself. I can only be sad and disappointed in you.

Feelings: sad, dissappointed, confused
Needs: clarity, understanding, harmony

You used to touch me. Now, you don't hug me or touch me. And, you recoil when I try to hug you and be close to you.

Feelings: afraid, lonely, confused, hurt
Needs: clarity, connection, acceptance, affection

You took it upon yourself to...

Feelings: resentment, bitterness, disappointment
Needs: consideration, collaboration, choice, participation

You started it!

Feelings: defensive, angry
Needs: to be seen/heard, fairness, safety

You shouldn't feel angry!

Feelings: frustration, anguish
Needs: connection, acceptance

You shouldn't feel that way!

Feelings: uncomfortable, irritated, confused
Needs: ease, peace, clarity

You should just commit.

Feelings: concerned, anxious
Needs: predictability, responsibility, trust

You should be over this by now.

Feelings: impatient, overwhelmed
Needs: efficiency, ease, harmony

You never listen!

Feelings: angry, frustrated, lonely, grief
Needs: to be seen/heard, intimacy, empathy, companionship

You never learned to listen, because your whole family never listens!

Feelings: impatient, annoyed
Needs: competence, to be seen/heard

You never help out.

Feelings: resentful, irritated, disappointed, lonely, overwhelmed
Needs: mutuality, collaboration, partnership, companionship, support

You need to clarify what you want in life.

Feelings: confused, overwhelmed
Needs: clarity, safety

You need to be less sensitive, and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Feelings: uncomfortable, overwhelmed
Needs: ease, clarity

You lied to me!

Feelings: anger, shock, hurt, fear, disappointment, grief
Needs: honesty, trust, security

You have to see deeply.

Feelings: impatient, concerned
Needs: competency, growth, learning

You don't take any of my ideas.

Feelings: irritation, discouraged, sad
Needs: inclusion, respect, participation, mutuality

You don't seem to hear what I say!

Feelings: exasperated, puzzled, disturbed
Needs: connection, clarity, to be heard, acknowledgment

You don't listen to me!

Feelings: frustrated, disheartened, lonely
Needs: to be seen/heard, acknowledgment, respect

You don't know how to take care of yourself.

Feelings: worried, frustrated
Needs: preservation of life, reassurance

You don't have to understand everything I say.

Feelings: tense, worried, hopeless
Needs: compassion, ease, harmony