You withdraw when you are upset because you are trying to punish me.

Connection Gems

Realizing Impact & Checking-in

Finding Peace with Verbal “Attacks” from Strangers

5 Practices for Strengthening Mindfulness in Intimate Relationships

Get Curious about Broken Agreements

Staying Grounded and Heart-Centered in Challenging Times

MCD and “Mental Illness”

Simple Responses to Perceived Demands

The Basics of Attunement

Simple Self-Empathy in a Challenging Moment

Take a Close Look at Control

Seeing Reactivity in Our Leaders

Building a New Yurt - From Couples to Community

From Hopelessness to Wise Attention

Is Love a Feeling or a Need?

Practice Healthy Differentiation: Skill 6: When perceiving blame, shaming, or pressure to think or act in a particular way, set a boundary and engage in honest expression

Why Setting a Life-Serving Boundary Can Trigger Anxiety

Practice Healthy Differentiation: Skill 5: Name and engage in self-soothing and self-regulation strategies as often as you seek soothing and regulation from others

Share Your Relationship Vision

Practice Healthy Differentiation: Skill 4: When noticing emotional upset in someone close to you, remain grounded and authentically choose

A Couple of Basics Regarding Attunement and Repair

Practice Healthy Differentiation: Skill 3: Express and hear differences between you and another while remaining grounded and nonreactive

How to Respond to Requests: Beyond Yes or No

Practice Healthy Differentiation: Skill 2: Name at least five strengths you have that help you contribute to others

3 Tenets for Mindful Compassionate Dialogue as a Spiritual Practice

Practice Healthy Differentiation: Skill 1: Articulate the core values by which you make major decisions

Steps for an Effective Timeout

Practice Emotional Security: Skill 6: Predictably turn towards others with full presence and responsiveness

Understanding How Shame Hinders Clear Requests

Connection Gem Archive

Connection Gem Archive

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