Is this for you?
You are ready to examine and interact about deep patterns of reactivity. You trust that the course will provide a safe, consistent, and well-structured space to access and be present for vulnerable sharing. You value experiential learning and look forward to learning and practicing with others.
You have participated in the Wise Heart series called “Transforming Chronic Reactivity” or studied character theory from the Hakomi framework. You are ready to translate this study and learning into a subtle sense of what it means to heal and contribute to healing for others.
What’s it all about?
This course is offered from the framework of Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD). MCD naturally supports you in creating the relationships you want by integrating the wisdom and skills of three powerful modalities: Hakomi, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Mindfulness.
Hakomi offers clarity about reactivity and healing, NVC offers a means for self-responsibility, skillful communication, and agency, and Mindfulness adds the stable attention and the clear focus needed to continuously refine your understanding and skills.
MCD is a system meant to provide access to agency, compassion, mindfulness, and wisdom through transformation and practice with 12 Relationship Competencies, nine foundations, and, at the center, a life-serving intention.
Powerful healing can be accessed as a part of daily interactions with friends, partners, coworkers, and community members. A pivotal moment of compassion or subtle understanding can change the direction of someone’s life.
In this course, you will learn to watch for these moments and to see through your own and other’s reactive patterns and societal roles to the tender needs underneath. It’s not about analyzing or diagnosing. It’s about connecting. From a place of connection, you can offer a healing response without trying to fix or rescue another person. If it doesn’t contribute to the other person, you can let it go and offer curiosity about what will contribute.
A healing response is something that is offered from the heart with the intention to contribute to the well-being of another. Healing responses can be both spontaneous acts of kindness and well-considered offerings that are informed by a subtle understanding of another’s experience.
In this course, you will learn and practice offering healing responses along both of these dimensions. You will have the opportunity to learn and practice attunement to another’s experience. The practice of attunement often gives rise to spontaneous acts of kindness that contribute to healing. Attunement helps one to sense more accurately how and when another might be able to receive a healing response.
You will also learn and practice healing responses as presented in Hakomi character theory, which I call chronic reactive patterns. These healing responses are designed to address a particular tender need. By adopting the language, intent, and tone related to a specific need, they can be absorbed by the receiver in a less defended and therefore more nourishing way.
You will systematically practice with healing responses for each of the eight chronic reactive patterns.
What to expect:
You will engage in conceptual learning, group discussion, experiential learning, and skills practice. Practice exercises will be done individually, in pairs, and in small groups. You will apply examples that you choose from your own life in each exercise.
Understanding the online format
Students will be signing in from their own location in real time, at the same time. We will be able to see and hear each other in little boxes on the screen. For visibility, it's important to have a light in front of you, not behind you. The technology allows for breaking up into pairs or small groups, which I can visit and check in with just as I would do in an in-person course. It’s important for a sense of safety and connection that you can be seen easily and consistently on video.
You will be able to review a recording of each session within 24 hours of the end of the session. Recordings will be available for review for eight weeks following the last session. Students won't be shown on the recording, but can be heard, you can participate in discussions via chat if you don’t want your voice recorded. This course might be later sold as a pre-recorded course.
You can also opt to take the series only through the recording (Self-Paced)
The recording will include LaShelle presenting, demonstrating exercises, and group questions and discussions. It will not include small group work.
Details:
Live attendance means:
Prerequisite for attending live via video conferencing: you have completed the course called, “Transforming Chronic Reactivity” or you have had training in Hakomi character theory. Between now and the start of the course, if you join as a Wise Heart member now, you can complete the Transforming Chronic reactivity course before this course begins. The method of delivering one session per week has been disabled for this course.
Attend at least six of the eight classes.
Arrive on time to each class (10:00 a.m. GMT-8, 6:00pm for GMT/UTC +0).
Attending and participating for the two hour duration of the class (with a 10-minute break in the middle). It is very disruptive to come in and out of a single class session; please plan to attend by recording if you cannot stay for the full two hours of the class.
Consistent access to internet speeds and connectivity that support video conferencing (600kbps/1.2Mbps (up/down) for HQ video; 1.5Mbps/1.5Mbps (up/down) for gallery view).
Facility with using the Zoom video conferencing system. For more technical information about zoom, you can go here.
Logging in each week using the initial instructions, meeting ID, and password you received before the start of the course.
Option to be assigned a study buddy for the course.
Self-paced attendance means:
As self-paced participants, you will receive an extensive workbook as well as access to the video recordings of each session within 24 hours of the end of the class session.
Option to be assigned a study buddy for the course..
Questions regarding the material, recordings, and practice each week will be answered by LaShelle via email correspondence. Please place the word QUESTION in all caps in the subject line so that we can track them and respond in a timely manner.
Optional participation in the weekly online discussion with all students enrolled in the course.
Trainer: LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
When: 10:00 a.m. to 12:00pm (GMT - 8), Saturday January 9, 16, 23, February 6, 13, 20, March 6, 13
Where: Online Video Conference Course
Cost $260.00 (Participants can opt to pay a $99 deposit to register, and pay the remaining balance on or before the first day of the workshop.)
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