Jackal Dictionary
Part of cultivating compassion is learning to hear the feelings and needs people are expressing regardless of the words they use. This dictionary is meant to help you in that process. If you are having difficulty guessing the feelings and needs behind someone's words, you can enter the words or phrase into the Jackal Dictionary search engine. A list of possible feelings and needs will pop up for you to consider. If you don't find a phrase you are looking for, email it to us and we will add it to the dictionary.
Taken for granted
Feelings: discouraged, deflated, resentful
Needs: appreciation, acknowledgment, mutuality, fairness
Feelings: discouraged, deflated, resentful
Needs: appreciation, acknowledgment, mutuality, fairness
Stop touching me!
Feelings: irritated, vulnerable, overwhelmed
Needs: focus, reassurance, rest, rejuvination
Feelings: irritated, vulnerable, overwhelmed
Needs: focus, reassurance, rest, rejuvination
She didn't get enough hugs growing up.
Feelings: exasperated, sympathetic
Needs: fairness, growth
Feelings: exasperated, sympathetic
Needs: fairness, growth
See, how nice you are today! Why can't you always be nice like this?
Feelings: relieved, pleased
Needs: harmony, caring, respect
Feelings: relieved, pleased
Needs: harmony, caring, respect
Ripped off
Feelings: furious, overwhelmed, shocked
Needs: fairness, honesty, trust
Feelings: furious, overwhelmed, shocked
Needs: fairness, honesty, trust
Racists should be round up and shot!
Feelings: rage, appalled
Needs: respect, harmony
Feelings: rage, appalled
Needs: respect, harmony
Patronized
Feelings: disturbed, appalled,
Needs: consideration, honor, to be seen/heard
Feelings: disturbed, appalled,
Needs: consideration, honor, to be seen/heard
Overpowered
Feelings: distressed, confused, anxious
Needs: support, fairness, respect, consideration
Feelings: distressed, confused, anxious
Needs: support, fairness, respect, consideration
Misunderstood
Feelings: disheartened, angst
Needs: understanding, to be seen/heard
Feelings: disheartened, angst
Needs: understanding, to be seen/heard
Men drive sports-cars because they're overcompensating for shortcomings.
Feelings: envious, resentful
Needs: integrity, to be seen/known
Feelings: envious, resentful
Needs: integrity, to be seen/known
Manipulated
Feelings: angry, scared, disoriented,
Needs: autonomy, honesty, trust, respect
Feelings: angry, scared, disoriented,
Needs: autonomy, honesty, trust, respect
Look what you did! What were you thinking?!
Feelings: disappointed, anxious
Needs: trust, safety, competence
Feelings: disappointed, anxious
Needs: trust, safety, competence